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Tips to help keep the stress of caring for a parent from straining your marriage.

In marriage we pledge to stick together for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness as well as in health – but what does not come up in our vows to each other is the way to handle the growing needs of senior care as our loved ones age. Here are some tips for maintaining a healthy marriage while providing care.

However with our life span increasing, it’s beneficial to put together a plan to meet the needs of our senior loved ones as they grow older, together with the plethora of day-to-day needs, all while honoring our cherished relationship with a spouse. It’s a challenge that is contributing to tension and strain for 80% of couples surveyed, leading to detachment and less quality time with each other. These particular areas in a marriage are especially impacted by caregiving for a senior loved one:

  • Finances. Still retaining the top spot for the reason reported for divorce, economic pressure is magnified when the senior loved one has not implemented a financial arrangement for long-term care. Frankly communicating irritations with each other and working together to explore options to cover the cost of services can help.
  • Fatigue. As satisfying as it might be, meeting the needs of an elderly loved one calls for a substantial amount of time and effort – leaving little left over at the end of your day for your spouse. Consider opportunities for assistance from other people or employ professional in-home senior care help, so you can be sure to allow for quality time with your spouse.
  • Frustration. Rising frustration and diminished patience are a couple of common unwanted effects of fatigue, and sadly, we have a tendency to lash out at people we love the most when feeling overwhelmed. Permit imperfection, practice understanding, and look for professional assistance as needed.

So how else are you able to avoid these issues and keep maintaining a solid and healthy marriage while providing care? The following tips can help:

  • Make sure your partner is always a high priority. Little gestures can go a long way towards this end, for instance writing a note of love and appreciation, getting up a few moments early to share a cup of coffee together before the day gets busy, or setting aside a block of time at the end of the day to talk and wind down.
  • Subscribing to an internet support group for family caregivers can allow you the chance to share worries with individuals in related situations, relieving concerns.
  • Seek out the services of a certified therapist, either for you separately or for the both of you as a couple.

An additional good way to accomplish a healthier life balance is through partnering with an established and trusted in-home care provider, like Atlanta Home Care Partners. We offer specialized respite care solutions that allow members of the family to take time off from caregiving, while providing seniors a chance for enhanced socialization with a friendly and professionally trained caregiver. Contact us online or give us a call at (404) 228-0103 to learn more about our Atlanta personal care services.  See our service area page for a full list of locations we serve.