Do you recall how hard it could be when you were young to learn the lesson of sharing with your siblings? Though the incredible importance of thinking about other people’s feelings, in addition to being fair, was impressed upon us while very young, it may still be a hurdle to lessen sibling squabbles regarding stressful decisions we confront in adulthood – such as how you can fairly divide the cost of senior care fairly for our aging parents.
Gregory French, president-elect of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, mentions, “What a family member considers ‘fair’ is very much dictated from that family member’s perspective…there’s a lot of family baggage that comes out, like: ‘Mom paid for your MBA, and she didn’t do that for me.’”
These guidelines can help individuals and their families arrive at an agreement on the most reasonable division of the cost of care for a senior loved one:
- Enlist the help of a mediator. Sitting down with the help of a trusted third party professional, like an attorney or financial planner with a specialty in senior matters, can go a long way towards trying to keep the conversation on track and advancing to the best resolution.
- Give some thought to hands-on caregiver assistance vs. expenses. Splitting up caregiving duties fairly should incorporate a discussion on the length of time each sibling can spend on offering care in the home, as well as how much financial care can be supplied. For instance, a sibling staying in close proximity to the senior may put in more time but reduced financial support as compared to one who resides in another state.
- Record the discussion. Putting everything in writing makes sure that everybody is on the same page, and allows for the opportunity to go back and review what was decided upon later if a disagreement should occur.
Above all, agree to put aside any lingering childhood dynamics in order to come together to provide the highest quality of caregiving possible.
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